I do not identify myself as a victim of sexual assault. But after attending a Take Back the Night event on my campus I realize that the lines defining sexual assault are blurry. And it forced me to think about a previous relationship where I engaged in sexual activities 100% of the time for my partner. Reflecting on this, I realized that I don’t know where the lines are. And I appreciate other people sharing their stories, making me reflect on my past. Your strength is astounding.
My 13-year-old daughter was sexually assaulted when she was
12-years-old by a 13-year-old boy, in my father’s home, her own
grandfather’s home. The boy was there staying overnight with my 13-year-old brother. My daughter did not come forward for two months. There is no physical evidence, the police have nothing to go on. My daughter has to live with the nightmares, as well as see this boy every day at school.
Girls, please please please tell someone right away. My daughter has been violated twice because she was too afraid to tell. Now she has to live with knowing he may never be punished for taking away her inner spirit. If you are a victim or know someone, TELL a trusted adult right away.
I married a man and had a child with him. He didn’t treat me the way he promised. I told hime I wanted a separation. Here is where it began. The first time he told me that it was the least that I owed him for ruining his life. I owed him sex? I said, that was rediculous. He said if I didn’t he was going to take our son and I would never hear from them again. I was crying and dizzy, he was on top of me. I closed my eyes and tried to escape mentally. When he was finished I went into my son’s room and slept on the floor. He came in and said he wanted to hold me, I wanted to vomit. The second time he raped me he told me the first time didn’t count because I didn’t act like I was into it. He was right, I wasn’t into being raped….He threatened me again with kidnapping my son. This time he forced me to perform oral sex first. I was gagging and crying, I felt so empty…When it was over and I was back in my son’s room he came in again and said he just wanted to hold me. I still wanted to vomit. This violation changed my life. I now have sole custody of my son and I am working as an educator for a sexual assault crisis agency. I am a SURVIVOR and on my way to being a THRIVER!!! Take back the night and take back our lives.
